Lets just say we’re sailing in parallel universes somehow represented by a similar line on your world map and mine. The line is so thin you can’t decide where to stand, where I stand and where we should be.

The potential controversy of our relationship, when we first meet each other, as strangers, crawls on your sailboat and mine and there is a vague feeling everything could collapse.

A relationship is more like a battlefield
One has to carefully consider the conditions, climate, the eventual changes that might occur, the resources one relies on and the forces that come into play once the battle has started.

It is not necessarily a conflict, not at all. Nonetheless, the common denominator of the relationship as such may be, in the simplest way, THE TENSION.

Me and you interacting implies a certain dynamic, a certain imbalance, a certain exchange of information and emotions. This creates the tension which shifts the status quo towards an unstable state on a common ground which I call the battlefield.

There is a battle, sometimes a war. Sometimes explicit, sometimes tacit and strategic.

There may be no conflict, just THE TENSION. And both of us wants to conquer something: either a piece of heart or a piece of soul. We may very well just be at war because we can’t stand each other and we cant share the common ground upon which we have initially met and started our relationship.

At times and most usually we come to an agreement and define the boundaries of our relationship.

Again, we consider the general conditions, climate, changes that might occur in time… the resources we have and maybe the common goals we may share so that from time to time we could just make room for some cooperative behavior.

Cooperation is sometimes the best war practice in our social world.

After all, the selfish genes we all share had naturally evolved to make the best out of all our hedonistic, self-oriented, competitive tendencies, relationships included.